Use Mother's Day To Reflect On What You Do Well
Mother’s Day makes me think of breakfast in bed with a magical concoction of breakfast-like treats and a hand written card in childish scrawl professing love and gratitude. It’s heart warming and tender and makes my chest swell.
But, if I’m being completely honest, being a good mom is hard work and is often a thankless job. Why then is it the most profound and meaningful job I’ve ever had? I think it’s because it allowed me the opportunity to bring the best of myself to helping my children grow into the best versions of themselves in pursuit of a good and fulfilling life.
Love has been the strongest motivating force. It’s what drives me when things are difficult and it warms me when all is well. So, on Mother’s Day, when its expressed on those hand scrawled notes and cards, it reminds me of the reciprocity of that love and that what I have selflessly given has been received and tenderly returned.
Bringing Your Best Forward in Motherhood
We often talk of the importance of being aware of our character strengths. But, love is often so natural we aren’t even aware we’re expressing it and we often take it for granted. We all need love and soak it in when it’s offered, but we rarely take the time to honor and appreciate the love that passes between us. Mother’s Day gives us that opportunity.
There are other strengths that characterize who I am as a parent and sometimes they are also recognized in those Mother’s Day notes- such as an awareness of how my perspective has been valued or my little acts of kindness have been appreciated or how my social intelligence has made me sensitive to their needs. I deeply value this awareness and the gratitude that is shared. It affirms me and reminds me of how parenting allows me the perfect opportunity to express myself.
I am also grateful for the opportunity as a daughter to reflect on the strengths of my own mother…the parts of her that I loved best and valued most. Happy Mother’s Day, mom!
by Donna Mayerson
Donna Mayerson, Advisor for Applied Practice at the VIA Institute, is a licensed psychologist and earned her master’s degree in special education. Formerly a coaching director of Hummingbird Coaching Services, she is a certified coach who has used her deep knowledge of the VIA strengths as a framework for individual and organizational change with hundreds of education administrators and teachers, leaders of youth-serving organizations, in training coaches/practitioners and with individuals and families.