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Greater Happiness Comes From Two Little Words

By Dr. Ryan Niemiec

What if you treated everything as a gift, perpetually saying “thank you” all day, everyday?

Mary Oliver, Pulitzer Prize and National Book Award Winning Poet, says this is what Spirituality is. Constant gratitude. What a great way to pursue the sacred of the present moment.

Let’s take a page out of this idea. Here I offer you five thank yous to do today, tomorrow and any day of your life.

1. Thank you, nature. Wherever you are, there is something in nature to hear, to see, and to appreciate. It might be the sun, the wind, the trees, mountains, a flock of birds, a backyard pond, or one caterpillar. Pausing to give thanks to one element in nature allows you to connect with life outside of yourself, not to mention nature offers a boost to well-being.

2. Thank you, people who offend me. There’s a good chance you’ll disagree with someone or become upset by something someone says during the holidays. It’s easy to be reactive and to argue back. It’s tough to mindfully breathe, speak with care, and/or let it go. It’s even tougher to say “thank you” to them. But why shouldn’t we thank someone that offers a different viewpoint? Doesn’t this challenge us to be better? Doesn’t it offer us new opportunities to use our strengths such as curiosity toward a new perspective and critical thinking to examine the pros and cons of the opinion? Using our strengths in this way helps us grow. Imagine yourself saying thank you in such a scenario this weekend: What would happen if you did?

3. Thank you, my loved ones. That’s an obvious one. But what is less obvious and something few people do is to offer depth to the gratitude. Rather than – “thank you, mom” or “I’m happy you’re my friend. Thank you,” offer a specific example and rationale for why you appreciate the person. You might say – “thank you, dad, for being there for me after I broke up with my boyfriend. You have always been caring and supportive of me when I’m down and I so appreciate that.”

4. Thank you, my body and mind. There’s plenty of gratitude to be pushed out to others and the world. What about yourself? (intrapersonal gratitude). Give thanks to your body, your mind, and your spirit. You might reply that you have an illness or that your body is breaking down. Isn’t that a time to be even more grateful? To appreciate the vitality that exists within your body and mind? As the prominent spiritual teacher, Thich Nhat Hanh observes, this present moment is a wonderful moment because it’s another moment you’re alive. You can smile. You can connect. And, you can appreciate yourself.

5. Thank you, toothbrush. We take our routines for granted: brushing teeth, washing our body, walking down steps, eating breakfast, driving to work. We are creatures of habit and these routines keep us sane. They sustain us, give our mind mini-relaxation periods, and provide us with a sense of comfort and normalcy. That doesn’t mean we can’t stand to be a bit more mindful of what we are doing. Saying “thank you” to your toothbrush deepens your appreciation of health habits and also breaks you out of your autopilot trance during the day.

Offer these five thank yous aloud and you’ll be expanding and boosting your gratitude. Express them each day and you will boost your happiness.